Stop playing a role is to gain freedom and self-confidence. Sarah Sérievic, psychotherapist and author of Breaking With Our Roles, helps us to free ourselves from the prison of roles to return to our true selves.
Flavia Mazelin Salvi
"As a child, it is our parents and educators who leave us at the door of our elk, later we are the ones who continue to exclude us. to prevent you from expressing who you are, "wrote Sarah Sérievic *, psychotherapist and author of Breaking With Our Roles. For her, there is no doubt that "by identifying ourselves with our roles, we neglect to be who we are". The path towards oneself requires courage, to get out of one's comfort zone as well as to dare to surprise or destabilize one's surroundings. But it is with this double condition that we can write our own scenario and "risk the momentum that brings us into the world". For Sarah Sérievic, "the first birth makes us a physical being, but it's up to us to give birth for the second time".
Of course, there is no magic recipe for going from role play to authenticity, but you can train, like a sportsman, with regularity and concentration. Sarah Sérievic offers 5 tracks to lift the blockage and promote the liberating click.
1. Overcome a challenge
In the first place, because when we face a stressful situation, we do it with our usual tools and behaviors. In short, our familiar RPG. But we have a pool of untapped domestic resources. It's time to use it.
Imagine a situation that seems insurmountable. Then visualize the scene as you would like it to unfold. Your posture, your words, the reactions of your interlocutor ... until you reach a positive resolution for you. You already gain confidence because, for the brain, there is no difference between the symbolic or the real.
2. Tap into your resources
Our inner resources are manifested in the success stories and behaviors that led to success. They also express themselves in the talents that we may have left on the edge of the road growing up, in the small inner voice that is not fooled and that we do not always want to listen. You can also find or find these resources in the memories of supportive relationships (a grandparent who encouraged you as a child, a teacher who believed in you ...) but you can also find strength through healing symbols, supports of life (a tree, an animal, an important object, a religious symbol). Take a little time to take inventory of all these elements.They belong only to you; the more you take them into account and consideration, the more you will gain in self-confidence and authenticity.